Internet and Infidelity : “Is it possible for a woman to love_two_or more men at the same time????”

“Is it possible for a woman  to love_two_or more men at the same time????”

“Is possible for a woman  to love_two_or more men at the same time?”

Can  a woman be in love with two or more men  at the same time ?

Why would a woman love two or more men at the same time ?

Is it possible for a  woman  to be intimate & share her intimate feelings of love and love making with more than one men at the same time be it on internet or in real ?

If yes,  then does every women can do the same?

If no,  then what is it ? is it love or is it lust ?

If you were to be facing such an issue, wherein,  somehow you get to know that the woman you love so deeply is  also in love with another man and is sharing exactly the same feelings  as she is doing with you, You are also surprised to know that she is getting intimate with other man in exactly the same manner  as she gets with you, but she is unaware of the fact that you got to know ?

My question’s  …..

What is it ?

Is it True love or mere lust ? Is it possible for a woman to do such a thing ?

What should a man do if he finds out something like this about the woman he is madly in love with ?

Is it about loving certain qualities a particular person or persons has and not being able to let go of either. Both men probably have different qualities she is attracted to and she doesn’t want to lose either one.

Is it selfish?  I think yes it is Indeed very selfish, what do you think ?

Would you ever want to fall in love ? If it were you, then would you still want to make her your life partner ?

Scenario 2 :

What if you met a women on internet and you guys are madly and deeply in love with each other & then one day you somehow found out that your woman is also writing the same things to someone else as well  & she tried her level best to make sure that all that stays hidden from you but somehow you get to know &  you find out that she is expressing her love in the same manner to other man as she does with you.

 you also see she is also sharing her  intimate feelings with  other man as she does with you,  so what is it ?

Is it possible that she is in true love with both the men ?

Is she just making fool of both the men and playing with their

feelings and emotions ?

 if yes, then why would someone do such a thing ?

If no, then what is it and why is she doing such a thing ?  

Is it just because that she thinks that she is on the internet and hence no one would know about it ?

What if just because you thought that she loves you truly and deeply like you do, you had plans of getting married to her , what should you do in such a case ?

FYI : How many of you believe this ?Is this really true ? If yes then why ?

Take as the sign of a change, yes, big change, as reports have found that women now have seriously started asking – Why should guys should have all the fun? So the reports suggest that increasingly a large number of turning their backs to fidelity, while are in the arms with cheating on their partners.

The new study at least not kicks out the nonsensical belief that it was men do all the “goofing around,” while women in all her goodness remained faithful to her boorish husband. As the new shocking UK poll has found that women are more likely to cheat on their partners than men.

The study found that four out of ten admitted on cheating on their partners, while only 3 out of 10 men said that they were unfaithful to their mates.

The poll found that of the 3,000 participants, two fifths of the women ended up kissing someone while out clubbing and almost one in four cheated with a colleague at a work event.

Some 55 per cent of the ladies confessed that they loved attention from men whereas a third said men often get the wrong idea because they were so flirtatious. However, a third of them also said that their “minor indiscretion” happened by accident because their flirting got out of hand.

Interestingly at least one in ten women also said that they will never be monogamous in their relationship, while a fifth of them confessed of knowing that it was wrong but found cheating on their partner too thrilling to ignore.

Strangers were high on the sexy list of the women as one in four women said they found complete strangers attractive and loved the thrill of chasing them on a night out. Women also said that they loved the thrill of being with a man in uniform.

The study was conducted by Opera North to open their new season with the Mozart opera Cosi fan tutte, translated as ‘All Women Are Like That’ – a light-hearted comedy that looks at the very nature of infidelity.

Internet infidelity – Online Infidelity is wrecking many relationships

With technology ruling our world, it is little wonder that it would enter into areas we never dreamed possible. Ten years ago, would you have ever thought it possible to pursue a relationship with someone, or even fall in love, sight unseen? But that is exactly what is happening to many – over the Internet. And while there is nothing wrong with Internet dating, it takes on a whole new meaning when it comes in the way of an existing relationship.

In fact, Internet infidelity has actually been cited as a reason for divorce in many cases. It is the sign of a new trend in how online relationships have assumed a new importance in today’s world. So is it really harmful?

There are some (mostly the ones indulging in it) who take the point of view that it is harmless – after all you’re just having a conversation with someone, nothing more. But is that all there is to it? There are others who opine that as long as you are spending time, sometimes hours, with another individual of the opposite sex, discussing personal details, even flirting or conversing with sexual undertones, how innocent can it be?

And just like an alcoholic or a substance abuser starts with a few drinks or a trial experiment, chatting and emails lead to exchange of photographs, calls and finally meetings. And very soon it has become a full-blown affair. Internet infidelity has crossed geographical boundaries too where those involved have been willing to negotiate distances and contend with secretly meeting without their spouses’ knowledge, to take the relationship one step further.

And what if it happens to you? What if your partner is indulging in Internet infidelity?

1. When should you suspect?

2. How can you be sure?

3. If Internet infidelity is destroying your relationship.

4. What should you do if your love/ partner/spouse were being unfaithful online and you want to stop?

The reason internet infidelity is so widespread is because it offers a bit of mystery and allure. You’re able to freely socialize with someone without the conflicts that come with face to face interaction.

It allows you to enter a world of fantasy.

But don’t brush this off as something you should not be concerned about. Internet infidelity is the same as emotional infidelity minus the face to face contact.

 

Is it a sin?

Yes.

With my best wishes and regards may this never happens to anyone or anybody ever !!

If you say you love me once, can I count on that forever?
All I hear is the echo of my lonely voice.
All I hear is the echo of my lonely voice.

Wounded. Hopes not lost, but still I am down
Seeking that something I can’t seem to find
In silent pain, tears! No sound.
Or living a lie and flying only in my mind.

Hemant Khurana

Should You Forgive Infidelity?

If you’re asking yourself that question, then somewhere within you there must be a desire to forgive the other person. After all, if you knew 100% for sure without doubts that you definitely should NOT forgive, then you wouldn’t be entertaining the question, right? You would have already said your goodbyes and would be moving on with your new life and licking your wounds. You may or may not have trust issues in your future relationships depending on how you processed the infidelity in your past. But what if you are struggling with the question? What then?

The first thing you need to look at above and beyond all else is the cheater’s character. Do they have a history of cheating on their partners? Do they have a history of cheating on you? Are they too self-centered to deny themselves whatever pleasures come along? Are they well meaning but weak? Unless someone’s incredibly ugly, they’re going to face temptation some time during their life. Saying no is all about having backbone, willpower, self-discipline, and the ability to truly care about another person’s feelings. Does your partner have all of those traits? If not, then forget it. Move on.

Let’s assume for whatever reason that you have decided that yes your partner has the ability to be faithful and this was a one time indiscretion. You now need to look at why they did what they did. Motivation is more important than the act itself. If you know why they cheated, then it’s possible to avoid having the same triggers repeated. Were you emotionally and physically distant for so long that you may as well have pushed them into finding love elsewhere? We are a love hungry species. Our spirits die when we do not feel loved. The body will follow. You’ve heard of the old couples who die within a short time of each other. You’ve also seen the studies they’ve done with the baby monkeys who don’t thrive and grow without their mamas. It’s the way of us to seek love. That’s our supreme motivator. So look at what caused the infidelity. If you can honestly say that yes you were completely loving and supportive and they cheated anyway, then you may want to consider walking away from them. If they give you some other reason that makes absolute sense to you and you can truly see it as a forgivable reason, then so be it. Forgive them. If they don’t have a reason that makes sense to you, then don’t forgive them.

The next thing to evaluate is what is at stake. What kind of a life have you built together and what does it mean to you? Do you have children together? A long marriage? A business and material wealth? What if you don’t think you can trust them and yet you will lose everything that you do love by leaving them? That’s something that only you can answer. Is the money, the marriage, the children worth a lifetime of being cheated on? You decide. Maybe it’s a marriage of convenience anyway and you really don’t care where they sleep. Then it’s going to be much easier to forgive them then if they are your one true love and your emotional health is at risk by having your heart shattered.

As you know, there are plenty of reasons to choose not to forgive and forget. But what if you have created a long beautiful life together and your partner is a wonderful parent to your children? What if you feel just as much to blame for the infidelity because you had pushed them away for too long. What if they had made an honest effort to work things out with you but you just kept pushing them away? What then? Just because you want to forgive them doesn’t mean that you can forgive them. How do you forgive and forget? The bible may tell us to turn the other cheek, but how? How do you do it? There’s a big difference between saying, “I forgive you” on a generic spiritual level and saying, “I forgive you” on a personal heart to heart level. The key to real forgiveness must involve trust. At some level you have to really believe in your heart of hearts that you can trust this person to never ever repeat such a painful choice again. If you don’t really believe that, then you aren’t really going to forgive them and the underlying resentment will eat away at whatever is left of the foundation of your relationship.

I believe that the most important barometer of how easy or hard it is to forgive is how they behave after the event. Do they browbeat you with comments like, “Look I said I’m sorry. Get over it already.” Or are they beating themselves up for having caused you this pain? Are they offering to jump through hoops to prove to you that they have learned a horrible lesson and will make damn sure it never happens again? The intensity of their apology and their willingness to allow you to feel the pain of it will have a direct impact on your ability to heal from the infidelity and on their ability to rebuild trust in your eyes. If they demand that you simply trust them on their word and they have done nothing to show you that they are taking full responsibility for the broken trust, then leave them. It’s not your fault that they broke the trust even if you were not emotionally available to them, the breach of trust was done on their part. You can’t force yourself to trust someone again. Just like when our teenagers lie to us and have to earn back our trust, it’s no different between adults whether the trust was broken in a marriage or a business relationship. It’s their job to recreate that. They need to find their own way back.

Hemant K (Happy)