THE POWER OF – “I’M SORRY” –
When we find ourselves in conflict because we are insisting that our partner do
something our way or because we are reacting to the way our partner happens to be doing something, there’s a simple way out: apologize. Notice the negative effect on the relationship of what you are saying or doing, stop doing it, and apologize. It’s never too late to say “I’m sorry.” These are tremendously healing words. They can stop a conflict instantly and drop both people into their hearts because “I’m sorry” comes from Essence.
“I’m sorry” concedes that you were wrong in pushing for what you were pushing for. It stops the ego, which is trying to be right, in its tracks and immediately allows the partner to relax and feel sympathy and love for you.
When we are able to acknowledge that the ego is running us, it loses its power over us. It’s only when we act it out unconsciously that it has power, but as soon as Essence comes in enough for us to be conscious of what’s happening, the ego’s game can’t continue. The jig is up, the ego’s been seen, and it can no longer run us. This turning point requires a willingness to admit you were wrong, and that’s the hardest part.
But once you see that what’s been driving you to hurt or manipulate your partner is the ego trying to be right, then it becomes much easier to let go, be humbled, and say “I’m sorry.” You don’t have to defend the ego’s position because you see that the ego isn’t who you are anyway. It’s just that part in all of us that causes suffering to ourselves and others.
It’s surprising how just saying “I’m sorry” softens you and your partner. Suddenly,
there’s nothing more to argue over because you have conceded the fight. There’s no more reason to withhold your love, which we often do to try to manipulate our partner, and the result is that love begins to flow again. Suddenly, you both remember what you love about each other. It’s funny how the ego clouds this, but it does so only momentarily if we are willing to concede our position and apologize for any hurt we may have caused.
Your partner will love you for that, and more important perhaps, apologizing makes it possible for you to love your partner again.
SO IF EVER YOU HURT SOMEONE AND MADE A MISTAKE WITH YOUR LOVED ONES. THEN JUST KEEP YOUR EGO ASIDE AND – AND JUST GO AND SAY THIS FROM THE BOTTOM OF YOUR HEART –
(I AM SORRY )
IF YOU SAY SO THEN BETTER MEAN IT !!
DO NOT JUST SAY FOR THE SAKE OF SAYING !!!
TRUST ME IT WILL WORK WONDERS 🙂
Hemant (Happy) Khurana